How I See Dating Sites

This subject has come up on a few different groups so I thought I'd address it here.


I've heard people comment about how they have not found a wife at a dating site so therefore the site is no good. Or that some of the women have been there awhile so therefore the site is no good.

Obviously those people who think that way are looking at it all wrong.

In both cases they have not stopped and thought that maybe the reason they
didn't find a wife is because the right person wasn't there yet or had beenthere but left before they joined....and as far as the women being there awhile - maybe those women haven't found the right family yet !


A good analogy would be "clothes shopping"


If one goes shopping for a new outfit they tend to already know what they want.  Style. Color. And of course it has to fit :-)

They find an outfit but it's wrong color - why would they get it ?
They wouldn't.

They find an outfit but it's the wrong style - why would they get it ?
They wouldn't.


They find an outfit but it just doesn't fit 0 why would they get it?
They wouldn't.


Not all women are going to be what a family is seeking.......and not all
families are going to be what a woman is seeking.....and neither should "settle" for less.

 

 

Hence why one might not find a wife at a site necessarily and/or why the profiles of women seeking a family might seem to have been there awhile - not because the site is at fault or useless or a scam - just that the right fits have not yet been found ;-)

Understand ???

New Season = Reflection

I love Fall.

Watching the trees change color and the leaves fall to the ground. Raking the leaves off the lawn is like a sort of 'cleaning house'.....removing things that no longer are useful to get back to the base...the ground floor so to speak.

 Don't get me wrong I love Spring and Summer too.......but for different reasons. Maybe I'm just getting older and more sentimental, but Fall triggers a nesting in me and makes me reflect on years past. Friends anew and old, and friends who have gone.

Then there is the one special leaf you find in your raking chore.......it's perfect. Perfect coloration, perfect shape, just perfect. That leaf remnds me of things I may have rejected too quickly........blessings overlooked or dismissed. When I find such a leaf I keep it for awhile, take it out and ponder over it until my heart is settled :)

Did I mention that I love Fall ?

SPRING..........A Time of New Beginnings

I love Spring.
Did I tell you I love Spring?
Well I do.  I LOVE SPRING !

Spring is a time of new beginnings.
Trees bud and grow new leaves.  Flowers burst up from their dormant sleep and bloom new blooms.  The air has a certain aroma....Crisp and clean........like freshly laundered linens.  Ahhhhhhhh, Spring !

Life has new beginnings too this time of year.
People have a brighter outlook on life in the Spring....winter doldrums are lifted away.  Winter clothes are washed and stored away and lighter clothing is brought out and freshened for wear.  Mindsets change from indoor winter projects to planning outdoor projects.

Even troubles and trials seem lessened or easier in the Springtime.  At least for me they do.
Maybe it's the prettiness of everything around...........I'm really not sure.

All I know is...

I LOVE SPRING !

Amazing

Amazing.
That is the word I have found myself saying way to often lately.
Amazing.
Christians who preach "love" doctrine - yet abhor other Christians who live polygamy.
Amazing.
Seculars that support "live and let live" or "follow your bliss" thinking - yet say only perverts and abusers want a polygamous  life.
Amazing.
People from any and all walks of life who believe that no woman would really CHOOSE to be a polygamous wife because they themselves would never choose that kind of life.
Amazing.
Those who say they are curious to listen to you about your life - then spend the time asking questions is an accusatory manner - and not hearing a word you say.
Amazing.
Amazing.
People who say they are polygamists and/or want to live polygamy, who want freedom to live their lives peacefully - yet spend their time criticizing,condemning, and complaining about Activists who are working for the same thing.
Amazing.

Amazing grace - How sweet the sound - That saved a WRETCH like me - I once was lost - but now am found - was BLIND but now I SEE.

Amazing.

Feeling like made of Elastic

Yup. Elastic. Mostly because lately been pulled in several directions at once. 
Problem is elastic loses it's stretchability...........
......... and so am I.

Things have to change soon before I snap lol.

Hoping Fall will bring that change.

Of the Right Mind ? or Minds ? The Double-Minded Dilemma

Like the Fixx says in their song.....

"You see dimensions in two
State your case with black or white
But when one little cross leads to shots, grit your teeth
You run for cover so discreet

Why don't they do what you say?
Say what you mean oh, babe
One thing leads to another
You told me something wrong
I know I listen too long but then
One thing leads to another"

Has anyone other than me ever dealt with such a person or people ?  Do you find it as exhausting and frustrating as I do ?  No matter whether it's a friend, relative, co-worker or neighbor ...... dealing with such a person is difficult.
What can be done though ?
What should be done ?
I don't know.......... wish I had the answer...... in the past I would cut such a person from my life completely. Was that the correct choice ?  Probably not.  I miss those people as some were family.
By cutting them out they couldn't affect my mental state any longer....but it was also a loss of heart to cut them out. 
So, which is better ?
If they are allowed to remain then the pain caused by their double-mindedness is also allowed to continue isn't it ?  Right ??  Like a slow burning pile of leaves - smoldering but never totally engulfed.  Maybe the pain would become "normal" and you would adjust and adapt. 
No............that can't be healthy.
Sigh........still no answers.
Still not clear.
Is it same as "lying" ?  In their mind it's not. In my mind it is. Who's right ?
How does one help a double-minded person ?  How do you help someone who doesn't think they have a problem ?
Maybe it's us single-minded people who have the problem.....................because we can't figure out how to handle the double-minded.
That's my thought...for now anyway.

God, Garden, Life

God's Garden

By Dorothy Frances Gurney (1858-1932)

THE Lord God planted a garden
In the first white days of the world,
And He set there an angel warden
In a garment of light enfurled.

So near to the peace of Heaven,
That the hawk might nest with the wren,
For there in the cool of the even
God walked with the first of men.

And I dream that these garden closes
With their shade and their sun-flecked sod
And their lilies and bowers of roses,
Were laid by the hand of God.

The kiss of the sun for pardon,
The song of the birds for mirth, –
One is nearer God's heart in a garden
Than anywhere else on earth.

For He broke it for us in a garden
Under the olive-trees
Where the angel of strength was the warden
And the soul of the world found ease.

That poem is so true.  Personally for me anyway. 
When life is pulling me in all directions - I run to my garden and peace surrounds me. 
When things in my life are stressing me out - I run to my garden and peace fills me. 
When my heart is missing loved ones gone - I run to my garden and peace soothes my heavy heart. 
The garden is truly a wonderful thing.  I highly recommend gardening or even just going and sitting in a garden and soaking in the beauty.

Another benefit of gardening is weeding.....Yes I said WEEDING....if you are in a bad mood for any reason, weeding the garden will take the anger away weed by weed ! 

Truly I am thankful that GOD created the garden.   We've had alot of long long talks in my gardens, God and I.

"One is nearer God's heart in a garden
Than anywhere else on earth."

Thank you LORD.